(WHAT HAPPENS WHEN BAD HABITS HAPPEN TO GOOD PEOPLE??)
Sometimes being in love means making sacrifices doesn’t mean you hav to put up with your partner.(There’s a big differece between giving up the last cookie and letting your other half get away with shoplifting) Bad habits can range from disgusting to downright illegal and end up ruining even the most perfect partnership.
So if happily ever after is what you want, try these steps to ensure a smooth sailing relationship.
STEP 1 : Confront Your Partner.
Ask your partner why he or she practises the bad habit and how it makes them feel. A lot of times, people do things because it makes them feel accepted by their friends, comforted when they have done it for so long that it has become acceptable to them. Most people, when confronted with a situation like this, will be in denial and will not willingly admit that what they are doing has become a problem. By getting them to answer these questions, you’ll be helping them to come to terms with the fact that they do have a problem and what are the deep-rooted reasons for them wanting to do those things in the first place.
STEP 2 : Getting To The Root Of The Problem.
Open communications is the key to any successful relationships. Being open and honest with your significant other will help create trust in the relationship. Once you trust each other, it will be easier for you to tell him or her how you really feel about his or her bad habit. Sit down with your partner and tell them that you feel uncomfortable with what he or she is doing. Put across what exactly about the bad habit you feel uncomfortable with gently. Is it because you feel embarassed when they do it in public? Or is it because the bad habit is a threat to their health? Be prepared that your partner will probably get abgry or become extremely emotional. The most important thing at this stage is to stay calm, even if you feel otherwise.
STEP 3 : Be Supportive.
Lastly, ask if your partner is willing to break this bad habit and tell them that you will be there to give support if they are willing to change for the better. Assuming that your partner cannot totally give up their bad habit, try and reach a compromise and suggest that they try to reduce the number of times they practice the habit. You could suggest that they start a journal, if they havn’t already, and record their feelings whenever they feel like doing the bad habit.
This are some suggestions try out. When you are always the one giving into a relationship, there will be bound to be a day where you can’t take it anymore. When that day arises….The consequences after your eruption will be drastic.At that time there is no turning back.