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Web Romance

CONSIDER the erotic potential between blogger and commenters.

The blogger is boss, a salon host with wit and whip. Certainly a blogger thrives on commenters — who wants to declaim to an empty e-room? But let’s be clear: blogger, sovereign; commenters, courtiers.

That’s why the bloggerati pounced gleefully last week on the news that one of their own had fallen in love with a commoner, er, commenter.

Reader, she is going to marry him.

Ann Althouse, 58, is a law professor at the University of Wisconsin, Madison who blogs about politics, law and cultural whatnots in a sharp, occasionally ribald tone. She admires Rush Limbaugh, voted for George Bush in ’04 and Barack Obama in ’08. She attracts derision and applause from 500,000 monthly visitors.

The jeers spiked ever since the March 22 announcement on her blog that this divorced mother of two adult sons, stalwartly single for more than 20 years, is engaged to a commenter known simply as “Meade.” Except for her closest readers, the blogosphere was taken by surprise.

“Does she know the guy?” sniggered Mickey Kaus, the Slate blogger, in a bloggingheads.tv interview.

In a phone interview, Ms. Althouse shot back, “If a male blogger found women to consort with by going into his comments, I think he’d be congratulated.”

The tale of Meade and Ms. Althouse is a cross between the studiedness of a Victorian epistolary courtship —a modern-day Robert Browning googling his dear Elizabeth Barrett — and the wackiness of 21st-century life online. The Althouse commentariat would log into the virtual local pub of the blog, gossiping and fantasizing about their queen’s offline love life, and even egging the couple on. When the announcement finally came, the commentariat cheered, bursting with hometown pride that a humble, anonymous son of the Internet could win the hand of the blogger.

Until now, Meade liked his online anonymity just fine. But at his fiancée’s urging, he agreed to be unmasked here. He is Laurence Meade, 55, divorced, father of a college student and a garden designer and caretaker for a Cincinnati estate.

About four years ago, Mr. Meade happened upon Ms. Althouse’s blog, by clicking through a series of Web links originating on the popular blog written by Andrew Sullivan (who also snickered at her betrothal last week).

Intellectually smitten, Mr. Meade read Ms. Althouse’s blog daily, becoming a regular commenter. “He would write jokingly as if he was in love with me,” Ms. Althouse said. “You couldn’t tell if he was fooling around or not, but it warms your heart.”

Mr. Meade even followed a blog kept by Ms. Althouse’s ex-husband, Richard Cohen, a writer in Austin, Tex. Once, about three years ago, when Ms. Althouse and her ex had a blog-spat, Mr. Meade, whose marriage was then unraveling, commented on Mr. Cohen’s behalf.

Over the years, Mr. Meade developed a blog-crush on Ms. Althouse. His wry, eloquent commenter persona became even more flirtatious.

In December, in a private e-mail message, he asked whether they might meet. Nothing came of it.

Turns out that the way to a blog-woman’s heart is through the comments.

In a January post, Ms. Althouse listed lessons from Clint Eastwood’s film “Gran Torino.”

No. 5: “A young man should perceive when a girl likes him and he needs to ask her out to dinner and a movie before somebody else does.”

In front of the eyes and fingertips of thousands, Mr. Meade made his move.

Mr. Meade: “OK. Want to have dinner with me and see it again?”

Ms. Althouse: “Yes, but you’ll have to come to Madison.”

On the phone last week, Mr. Meade recalled that exchange. “It was a throwaway,” he said. “I didn’t expect Ann to answer. Even so, I thought, that’s the end of that. But then Knox noticed.”

That is, Knox, another commenter, who wrote: “Meade, this is HUGE! Meade …? He must be packing.”

Emboldened, Mr. Meade wrote privately to Ms. Althouse. After he offered his Social Security number, in case she wanted to run a criminal check, they made a date.

He was intimidated by her. “I don’t have the education she has,” he said. He had studied history and horticulture in college but never graduated. “I don’t have the social status she has. But I was powerfully drawn to her. And I thought, what do I have to lose?”

Mr. Meade drove 10 hours to Madison. At the theater, they met — and spoke — for the first time. Alas, the film was “The Wrestler.”

As a blogger, Ms. Althouse gives the illusion that readers are privy to her personal life. But she is actually circumspect. The next morning, she posted a harsh review of “The Wrestler,” but didn’t mention the date itself.

But Mr. Meade did: “it didn’t ruin your appetite for dinner, did it? I hope not.”

No response.

Mr. Meade kept writing to her on the blog and through e-mail. Writing was the comfort zone through which they had come to know each other over the years. They began to relax.

Ms. Althouse agreed to meet him once more, halfway.

That would be West Lafayette, Ind.

On Friday, Feb. 13, the couple and their laptops met at a cafe there. They chatted, she wrote; literary libidos soared. “I loved the kissing in public,” Ms. Althouse recalled last week. A car had passed and someone hooted. “No one has ever yelled, ‘Get a room’ at me before!” she said, with evident delight.

That evening, the commentariat buzzed with suspicion. “I think the professor has a boyfriend.” Another wrote: “Has anyone seen Meade lately?”

The next morning, Valentine’s Day, Ms. Althouse posted a photograph of the cafe with the caption, “In the Heartland.”

The commentariat speculated madly.

The couple spent two more weekends and 10 days’ vacation together. Ms. Althouse blogged as usual, but did not disclose the romance. She did drop hints and puns like bread crumbs, alluding, for instance, to mead, the honeyed drink. On Feb. 28, Ms. Althouse posted a photo of a skillet on a stove, with the headline: “You cook breakfast. I’ll blog it.”

Mr. Meade wrote: “Nice steamy reflections.”

A prosaic commenter: “Using a metal fork in a nonstick pan?”

Two weeks ago, Ms. Althouse put up a series of photos. The final was a close-up of her hand, trying on Tiffany sparklers.

The commentariat went wild.

Freeman Hunt: “if they’re engaged, they actually got pretty much engaged on the second date.”

Finally, Meade himself stepped forward and made the announcement: “Althouse said yes! I am the happiest man in the world.”

Mr. Meade plans to move to Madison in August, when the couple will become legally wedded blogger and commenter.

Knox, the commenter who sent Mr. Meade on that first movie date, sobbed with virtual joy: “Couldn’t be happier for two people I’ve never met!”

Lovely Love Quotes

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Young love is when you love someone because of what they do right. Mature love is when you love someone in spite of what they do wrong.

The most important ingredient we put into any relationship is not what we say or what we do, but what we are.

Love and kindness are never wasted. They always make a difference. They bless the one who receives them, and they bless you, the giver.

One must not lose desires. They are mighty stimulants to creativeness, to love, and to long life.

Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.

The best portion of a good man’s life is in his little nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and of love.

LoVe, SePaRaTiOn, PaIn ….

Coping with separation specially when you are in love can be one of the hardest experiences in life. Although its for a short time, the hope of the person’s return makes it easier for us to handle. However the intense emotional pain that comes along with it is very difficult to overcome.

For those who say that separation is easy, it’s a bold statement, but trust me, through distance, your heart really does grow fonder, through the thousands of miles of separation, you realize that you are missing something.   The mornings will greet you and the nights might bid you to sleep.. and yet, the sweetness of the morning breeze… and the sparkle of the night air is not the same..there will be a feeling of something missing.. an emptiness…. you just wish like having the most hectic days of life.. because it gives you a chance to fill a void that is always present within you but …as the day slows down… the memory of your love catches up.. and the longing of this aching heart begins to creep up within …and the hope that someday both will meet again is the only thing that keeps you going.

It is the distance that makes life a little hard. But then again distance between two hearts is not an obstacle; rather a great reminder of just how strong  love can be.

If you have ever been infatuated, you would have realized that infatuation is weakened by time and separation where real love is strengthened by time and separation. This does not mean that there will be no pain in separation. On the contrary, there is great pain in separation if you are truly in love.  The greater your capacity to love, the greater your capacity to feel the pain.

“There is one pain I often feel, which you will never know. It is caused by the absence of you.”

Love vs Marriage

Love is holding hands in the street.
Marriage is holding arguments in the street.

Love is cuddling on a sofa.
Marriage is one of them sleeping on a sofa.

Love is talking about having children.
Marriage is talking about getting away from children.

Love is going to bed early.
Marriage is going to sleep early.

Love is losing your appetite.
Marriage is losing your figure.

Love is sweet nothing in the ear.
Marriage is sweet nothing in the bank.

TV has no place in love.
Marriage is a fight for remote control.

Love is 1 drink and 2 straws.
Marriage is “Don’t you think you’ve had enough!”.

WhAt Is LoVe

 

Love is a slow kiss goodnight.
It’s anticipation.

Love is flirting outrageously and still remembering that the person at your side is not obligated to do anything.
It’s respect.

Love is an imperfection in yourself not bothering you.
It’s acceptance.

Love is passing up an opportunity because the time isn’t right yet.

It’s patience.

Love is a back massage that starts above the hairline and ends around the insoles.
It’s exploration.

Love doesn’t not have to say, “Let’s make love”, because you know what the other person wants.
It’s understanding.

Love is being given an honest chance to say no when you thought you were committed.
It’s consideration.

Love is saying the perfect phrase to make a solemn embrace dissolve into giggles.
It’s humor.

Love is reviewing the damage to your living room and realizing personal effects are strewn in a clockwise pattern from the front door the to bedroom.

It’s abandonment.

Love is seeing what your love really looks like for the first time.
It’s truth.

Love is knowing what time it is and not caring.
It’s joy.

Love is seeing a new side of a person you thought you knew.
It’s renewal.

Love is telling a person if you have to leave, you will let them sleep, and being told they would rather be woken.
It’s tenderness.

Love is waking up to find the subject of the dream you were having asleep on your shoulder.
It’s where fantasy meets reality.

Love is being there to wake your lover slowly.
It’s sensuousness.

Love is two people only taking up a third of a queen-sized bed.
It’s closeness.

Love belatedly knows why you bothered to buy a queen-sized bed three years ago.
It’s practicality.

Love is opening your medicine cabinet finding your tube of toothpaste turned into a pretzel.
It’s adaptation.

Love knows you gave the extra set of keys to your apartment to the right person.
It’s trust.

Love is saying good-bye and knowing you will be back by mutual consent.
It’s faith.

Love is sitting at the window, looking out and remembering who you were with the night before.
It’s reflection.

Love is stories that will never be told.
It’s personal.

 

33 Facts about Guyz

Belive it or not……..Its True

  1. Guys like their gadgets & bikes more than a girl.
  2. Guys don’t actually look after good-looking girls. They prefer neat and presentable girls.
  3. When a guy says he doesn’t understand you, it simply means you’re not thinking the way he is.
  4. Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about .
  5. When a guy really likes you, he’ll disregard all your bad characteristics.
  6. Guys go crazy over a girl’s smile.
  7. Guys will do anything just to get the girl’s attention.
  8. When you touch a guy’s heart, there’s no turning back.
  9. When a girl says “no”, a guy hears it as “try again tomorrow”. … so true.
  10. You have to tell a guy what you really want before he gets the message clearly.
  11. Guys love their moms.
  12. A guy would sacrifice his money for lunch just to get you a couple of roses.
  13. A guy often thinks about the girl who likes him. But this doesn’t mean that the guy likes her.
  14. You can never understand him unless you listen to him
  15. If a guy tells you he loves you once in a lifetime….He really does
  16. Beware Guys can make gossips scatter through half of the face of the earth faster than girls can
  17. Like Eve, girls are guys’ weaknesses
  18. Guys are very open about themselves
  19. It’s good to test a guy first before you believe hi..But don’t let him wait that long
  20. Guys hate it when their clothes get dirty.Even a small dot
  21. Guys really admire girls that they like even if they’re not that much pretty
  22. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to hi…You don’t need to give advice ..very true
  23. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you
  24. Guys  keep secrets that girls tell them
  25. Guys think too much
  26. Guys fantasies are unlimited
  27. Girls’ height doesn’t really matter to a guy but her weight does! ..very true
  28. Guys tend to get serious with their relationship and become too possessive…So watch out girls!!!
  29. Guys are more talkative than girls are especially when the topic is about girls
  30. You can truly say that a guy has good intentions if you see him praying sometimes
  31. If a guy says you’re beautiful, that guy likes you
  32. Guys hate girls who overreact
  33. Guys love you more than you love them IF they are serious in your relationships.

A Lovely Message

A boy was born to a couple after eleven years of marriage. They were a loving couple and the boy was the gem of their eyes. When the boy was around two years old, one morning the husband saw a medicine bottle open. He was late for office so he asked his wife to cap the bottle and keep it in the cupboard. His wife, preoccupied in the kitchen totally forgot the matter.

The boy saw the bottle and playfully went to the bottle fascinated by its color and drank it all. It happened to be a poisonous medicine meant for adults in small dosages. When the child collapsed the mother hurried him to the hospital, where he died. The mother was stunned. She was terrified how to face her husband.

When the distraught father came to the hospital and saw the dead child, he looked at his wife and uttered just five words.

QUESTIONS
:
1. What were the five words ?
2. What is the implication of this story?


ANSWER :

The husband just said “I am with you Darling”

The husband’s totally unexpected reaction is a proactive behavior.
The child is dead. He can never be brought back to life. There is no point in finding fault with the mother.
Besides, if only he had taken time to keep the bottle away, this would not have happened.
No one is to be blamed. She had also lost her only child. What she needed at that moment was consolation and sympathy from the husband. That is what he gave her.

If everyone can look at life with this kind of perspective, there would be much fewer problems in the world. “
A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.
Take off all your envies, jealousies,unforgiv eness, selfishness, and fears. And you will find things are actually not as difficult as you
think.

MORAL OF THE STORY
Sometimes we spend time in asking who is responsible or whom to blame, whether in a relationship, in a job or with the people we know. By this way we miss out something.