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Web Romance

CONSIDER the erotic potential between blogger and commenters.

The blogger is boss, a salon host with wit and whip. Certainly a blogger thrives on commenters — who wants to declaim to an empty e-room? But let’s be clear: blogger, sovereign; commenters, courtiers.

That’s why the bloggerati pounced gleefully last week on the news that one of their own had fallen in love with a commoner, er, commenter.

Reader, she is going to marry him.

Ann Althouse, 58, is a law professor at the University of Wisconsin, Madison who blogs about politics, law and cultural whatnots in a sharp, occasionally ribald tone. She admires Rush Limbaugh, voted for George Bush in ’04 and Barack Obama in ’08. She attracts derision and applause from 500,000 monthly visitors.

The jeers spiked ever since the March 22 announcement on her blog that this divorced mother of two adult sons, stalwartly single for more than 20 years, is engaged to a commenter known simply as “Meade.” Except for her closest readers, the blogosphere was taken by surprise.

“Does she know the guy?” sniggered Mickey Kaus, the Slate blogger, in a bloggingheads.tv interview.

In a phone interview, Ms. Althouse shot back, “If a male blogger found women to consort with by going into his comments, I think he’d be congratulated.”

The tale of Meade and Ms. Althouse is a cross between the studiedness of a Victorian epistolary courtship —a modern-day Robert Browning googling his dear Elizabeth Barrett — and the wackiness of 21st-century life online. The Althouse commentariat would log into the virtual local pub of the blog, gossiping and fantasizing about their queen’s offline love life, and even egging the couple on. When the announcement finally came, the commentariat cheered, bursting with hometown pride that a humble, anonymous son of the Internet could win the hand of the blogger.

Until now, Meade liked his online anonymity just fine. But at his fiancée’s urging, he agreed to be unmasked here. He is Laurence Meade, 55, divorced, father of a college student and a garden designer and caretaker for a Cincinnati estate.

About four years ago, Mr. Meade happened upon Ms. Althouse’s blog, by clicking through a series of Web links originating on the popular blog written by Andrew Sullivan (who also snickered at her betrothal last week).

Intellectually smitten, Mr. Meade read Ms. Althouse’s blog daily, becoming a regular commenter. “He would write jokingly as if he was in love with me,” Ms. Althouse said. “You couldn’t tell if he was fooling around or not, but it warms your heart.”

Mr. Meade even followed a blog kept by Ms. Althouse’s ex-husband, Richard Cohen, a writer in Austin, Tex. Once, about three years ago, when Ms. Althouse and her ex had a blog-spat, Mr. Meade, whose marriage was then unraveling, commented on Mr. Cohen’s behalf.

Over the years, Mr. Meade developed a blog-crush on Ms. Althouse. His wry, eloquent commenter persona became even more flirtatious.

In December, in a private e-mail message, he asked whether they might meet. Nothing came of it.

Turns out that the way to a blog-woman’s heart is through the comments.

In a January post, Ms. Althouse listed lessons from Clint Eastwood’s film “Gran Torino.”

No. 5: “A young man should perceive when a girl likes him and he needs to ask her out to dinner and a movie before somebody else does.”

In front of the eyes and fingertips of thousands, Mr. Meade made his move.

Mr. Meade: “OK. Want to have dinner with me and see it again?”

Ms. Althouse: “Yes, but you’ll have to come to Madison.”

On the phone last week, Mr. Meade recalled that exchange. “It was a throwaway,” he said. “I didn’t expect Ann to answer. Even so, I thought, that’s the end of that. But then Knox noticed.”

That is, Knox, another commenter, who wrote: “Meade, this is HUGE! Meade …? He must be packing.”

Emboldened, Mr. Meade wrote privately to Ms. Althouse. After he offered his Social Security number, in case she wanted to run a criminal check, they made a date.

He was intimidated by her. “I don’t have the education she has,” he said. He had studied history and horticulture in college but never graduated. “I don’t have the social status she has. But I was powerfully drawn to her. And I thought, what do I have to lose?”

Mr. Meade drove 10 hours to Madison. At the theater, they met — and spoke — for the first time. Alas, the film was “The Wrestler.”

As a blogger, Ms. Althouse gives the illusion that readers are privy to her personal life. But she is actually circumspect. The next morning, she posted a harsh review of “The Wrestler,” but didn’t mention the date itself.

But Mr. Meade did: “it didn’t ruin your appetite for dinner, did it? I hope not.”

No response.

Mr. Meade kept writing to her on the blog and through e-mail. Writing was the comfort zone through which they had come to know each other over the years. They began to relax.

Ms. Althouse agreed to meet him once more, halfway.

That would be West Lafayette, Ind.

On Friday, Feb. 13, the couple and their laptops met at a cafe there. They chatted, she wrote; literary libidos soared. “I loved the kissing in public,” Ms. Althouse recalled last week. A car had passed and someone hooted. “No one has ever yelled, ‘Get a room’ at me before!” she said, with evident delight.

That evening, the commentariat buzzed with suspicion. “I think the professor has a boyfriend.” Another wrote: “Has anyone seen Meade lately?”

The next morning, Valentine’s Day, Ms. Althouse posted a photograph of the cafe with the caption, “In the Heartland.”

The commentariat speculated madly.

The couple spent two more weekends and 10 days’ vacation together. Ms. Althouse blogged as usual, but did not disclose the romance. She did drop hints and puns like bread crumbs, alluding, for instance, to mead, the honeyed drink. On Feb. 28, Ms. Althouse posted a photo of a skillet on a stove, with the headline: “You cook breakfast. I’ll blog it.”

Mr. Meade wrote: “Nice steamy reflections.”

A prosaic commenter: “Using a metal fork in a nonstick pan?”

Two weeks ago, Ms. Althouse put up a series of photos. The final was a close-up of her hand, trying on Tiffany sparklers.

The commentariat went wild.

Freeman Hunt: “if they’re engaged, they actually got pretty much engaged on the second date.”

Finally, Meade himself stepped forward and made the announcement: “Althouse said yes! I am the happiest man in the world.”

Mr. Meade plans to move to Madison in August, when the couple will become legally wedded blogger and commenter.

Knox, the commenter who sent Mr. Meade on that first movie date, sobbed with virtual joy: “Couldn’t be happier for two people I’ve never met!”

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Blessed Valentines Day

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Everyday is a valentine day for

everyday is a day to love and be

loved.

Valentine’s Day movies for lovers

What’s a Valentine’s Day movie list for lovers without “Pretty Woman,” “Ghost,” “Say Anything” and “Dirty Dancing”?
Good. Now we can move on to some other romantic movies worth considering this Valentine’s Day:

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Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan in a scene from “You’ve Got Mail.”

“She’s the One” (1999): A girl gets into love-scorned Ed Burns’ cab and makes him drive her to New Orleans for a wedding. They return married and begin life as his brother divorces Jennifer Aniston to get with Cameron Diaz, who as movie luck would have it, was the one who scorned Burns.

“Dr. Zhivago” (1965): It’s the run-of-the mill story about a boy who meets a girl, marries his fiancee, hooks up with the girl again, goes back to his wife, but can’t stay away from the girl. Throw in World War I, the Russian Revolution, balalaikas galore, enough snow to blanket Jupiter, full-blown class warfare, and a paternity whodunit, and you have a movie for the ages. Its three hours-plus length may seem as an age upon itself, but Julie Christie, Omar Sharif and Geraldine Chaplin will make you see love in a different light.

“Love Actually” (2003): Eight people wrestle with all different aspects of life and love. Some fall in love, others fall out of it. The beauty here is that every movie watcher, no matter their current relationship status at the time, can identify with someone in the film. Think “The Breakfast Club” for adult relationships.

“Cinema Paradiso” (1990): A star-crossed love story between Salvatore (nicknamed Toto as a boy) and Elena, the first love he never forgets. But wait, there’s more. It is also the story of a fatherless boy growing up in an Italian village who is taken under the wing of the town’s movie projectionist. His mentor provides the kindness and patience of a father and instills in him a love of the movies. The boy doesn’t get the girl, but he never lets go of his passion for cinema, which becomes his other great love. Grab your hankies for the final scene in the film’s original version (there’s also a director’s cut available).

The Meg Ryan Movie Marathon: Fellas, there’s no sense in fighting it. Just man up and rent all three. This way, you’re covered. Start the marathon with “You’ve Got Mail” followed by “Sleepless in Seattle” and end strong with “When Harry Met Sally.”

“The Princess Bride” (1987): The farm boy and the princess find true love, but he ships off to sea and becomes the Dread Pirate Roberts, only to return in time to rescue Buttercup from Prince Humperdink. An all-ages classic.

“West Side Story” (1961): The classic story of a bad boy who turns good because of a girl from the other side of the tracks, but can’t quite completely separate himself from his bad-boy past and bad-boy friends.

“Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind” (2004): Beautiful, haunting music serves as a backdrop to this Long Island love story in which a wacky chick ( Kate Winslet) and a somber dude ( Jim Carrey) fall for each other, fight like crazy, have their memories of each other erased and then meet in Montauk to do it all over again. This non-linear story may confuse at first. Luckily, it’s good enough to watch again and again.

“The Notebook” (2004):

Others worth considering, when everyone else beat you to Blockbuster and Netflix for the movies above:

“The Cutting Edge”

“Untamed Heart”

“The American President”

“Sabrina” (the original)

“What Dreams May Come”

“While You Were Sleeping”

“There’s Something About Mary”

“2 Days in Paris”

Love is…..

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Love shouldn’t have a reason . Love has to grow in us for some time and you would never know what’s happening until it reaches your nerves one fine day and you find that the one your in love with ,is the person whom you have been with  for quite some time. Wonder how arranged marriages work ?  Maybe years back things were abit ok , but an arranged marriage where in a GUY/GAL who knew very little before hand get to start a new life . I see alot of love marriages fail too. It’s not marriages that fail people , but its about people who fail marriages.

It’s true that man and woman belong to  two different planets in their way of thoughts , belief and way of living. It has become highly imperative that you understand each other well and have mutual respect for the other persons feelings, thoughts and freedom . The moment the other person starts giving a different perspective to what the first person said , its assumed as the dawn of an argument. It gets personal there  instantly.

Sometimes the problem with most of us is, whenever someone tells us something , instead of listening to what is said , we start preparing to give answers on what we feel about the same there by missing the whole point , on what is said. It’s easy to tell that I’m in love but to prove and stand by what I meant  needs a life time.

We should accept the people for the way they are  though it is good to speak what ever you feel very openly , do be reminded of the fact that it can hurt people alot . It might not be alright when you say sorry . Words can be too personal and it can affect a relationship to a great extent. It’s better to keep one’s mouth shut whenever some weird thoughts creeps across  the mind . They may be just passing cloud.

Understanding, trust, care and maturity to face everyday’s problem and move on gracefully in life is a MUST.

It might sound simple, but it is a lesson that may take a lifetime to truly practice.It is the secret to true love. To truly practice it, you must sincerely feel no expectations from those who you love, and yet an unconditional caring.

To love and be loved the unconditional way , We need to be blessed

It’s easy to  get into into a relationship … it’s easy to break from a relationship … but it’s really tough to be in a relationship for life and live happily.

  • Give and don’t expect
  • Advise, but don’t order.
  • Ask, but never demand.

Cyber love

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The screen flicks on in MSN
So far and yet so near
Your name sits there in vivid blue
And I know that you are there

At first I wondered if its wise
To use my time in search
Of something no computer feels
Without a human touch.

But as I grew to know you
Through lines upon the screen
I saw a depth of beauty
So clear though never seen

And as we talked of love and joked
And kindled our desire
I felt myself become entranced
And caught within your fire

For though we have not met
Your earthly form not seen
I feel your soul within the words
Upon that magic screen

Oh,  how you stir me
Your passion strong and bright
Brings to my full but lonely life
A wondrous glow of light

The vastness of the world between us
May stop our paths from meeting
And so ensure my love for you
Is sweet
But oh so fleeting…

Do this for a girl

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Every girl dreams that one day she will find a person that does these things for her. even the smallest action can have the BIGGEST impact in someones life.

 

• give her one of your t-shirts to sleep in.

 

• leave her cute text notes.

 

• kiss her in front of your friends.

 

• tell her she looks beautiful.

 

• look into her eyes when you talk to her.

 

• let her mess with your hair.

 

• touch her hair.

 

• just walk around with her.

 

• FORGIVE her for her MISTAKES.

 

• look at her like she’s the only girl you see.

 

• tickle her even when she says stop.

 

• hold her hand when you’re around your friends.

 

• be the one to take her hand, don’t make her reach for you

 

• be the one to call her, don’t make her always call you

 

• when she starts swearing at you, tell her you love her.

 

• let her fall asleep in your arms.

 

• get her mad, then kiss her.

 

• tease her and let her tease you back.

 

• stay up all night with her when she’s sick.

 

• watch her favorite movie with her.

 

• kiss her forehead.

 

• give her the world.

 

• write her letters.

 

• let her wear your clothes.

 

• when she’s sad, hang out with her.

 

• let her know she’s important.

 

• let her take all the photos she wants of you.

 

• kiss her in the pouring rain.

 

• when you fall in love with her, tell her.

 

• and when you tell her, love her like you’ve never loved someone before.

LoVe, SePaRaTiOn, PaIn ….

Coping with separation specially when you are in love can be one of the hardest experiences in life. Although its for a short time, the hope of the person’s return makes it easier for us to handle. However the intense emotional pain that comes along with it is very difficult to overcome.

For those who say that separation is easy, it’s a bold statement, but trust me, through distance, your heart really does grow fonder, through the thousands of miles of separation, you realize that you are missing something.   The mornings will greet you and the nights might bid you to sleep.. and yet, the sweetness of the morning breeze… and the sparkle of the night air is not the same..there will be a feeling of something missing.. an emptiness…. you just wish like having the most hectic days of life.. because it gives you a chance to fill a void that is always present within you but …as the day slows down… the memory of your love catches up.. and the longing of this aching heart begins to creep up within …and the hope that someday both will meet again is the only thing that keeps you going.

It is the distance that makes life a little hard. But then again distance between two hearts is not an obstacle; rather a great reminder of just how strong  love can be.

If you have ever been infatuated, you would have realized that infatuation is weakened by time and separation where real love is strengthened by time and separation. This does not mean that there will be no pain in separation. On the contrary, there is great pain in separation if you are truly in love.  The greater your capacity to love, the greater your capacity to feel the pain.

“There is one pain I often feel, which you will never know. It is caused by the absence of you.”